Marx taught that luxury is as much a vice as poverty and that our goal should be to be much, not to have much. (I refer here to the real Marx, the radical humanist, not to the vulgar forgery presented by Soviet communism.) Erich Fromm, “To have or to be” #erich-fromm #fromm #marx #philosophy #psychology #socialism #communism #bourgeois #future #values #quote #ussr
amos oz was saying that Hebrews were stunned with the force they posses now, and never had before. this reminds about the compensation theory that those from Russia or Arab countries who recently became wealthy or well-to-do, often compensate former asperity and lack of opportunities.
by transferring the compensation theory to the internet, I think, that many of us today are stunned with the opportunity that many acquaintances and even strangers may read what they transmit, and even like it. Which can be roughly estimated as the likes count.
it is of course a natural need for humans to be accepted in the community, and to feel a bit of self importance. probably, those, who were devoid of those, are more obsessed with showing off in the “internets”, as Bush put it.
thus, like the Hebrews are compulsive to use force, like New Russians must use golden lavatories, we write online, and count
what god sent us today likes, instead of aiming for deeper interpersonal relationships.
which has it’s opposite side: consuming this astonishing amount of information simply is not easy/possible, thus we learn to swallow it fast, without chewing, in vain hope of not missing out.
that’s the vicious circle of the beginning of the internet age, which is hard to escape.
Now I’ve been written this, I’ve remembered words of my friend about the Mcluhan’s book.
#compensation_theory #compensation #theory #psychology #humans #internet
If other people do not understand our behavior—so what? Their request that we must only do what they understand is an attempt to dictate to us. If this is being “asocial” or “irrational” in their eyes, so be it. Mostly they resent our freedom and our courage to be ourselves. We owe nobody an explanation or an accounting, as long as our acts do not hurt or infringe on them.
How many lives have been ruined by this need to “explain,” which usually implies that the explanation be “understood,” i.e. approved. Let your deeds be judged, and from your deeds, your real intentions, but know that a free person owes an explanation only to himself—to his reason and his conscience—and to the few who may have a justified claim for explanation.
Erich Fromm, The art of being
#erich_fromm #psychology #quote #explanation #freedom
to merry. relationship guide from acquaintance to civil registry. it’s time to act!
#bookstore #psychology (yes it was in psychology department) #book #relationships #guide #love #manual #marriage
The Dunning–Kruger effect is a cognitive bias wherein relatively unskilled individuals suffer from illusory superiority, mistakenly assessing their ability to be much higher than is accurate. This bias is attributed to a metacognitive inability of the unskilled to accurately evaluate their own ability level. Conversely, highly skilled individuals may underestimate their relative competence, erroneously assuming that tasks that are easy for them are also easy for others.
#dunning-kruger_effect #psychology #cognitive #bias #knowledge #expertise
why rejection is painful to such extent, much more, than other basic psychological injuries, why loneliness makes us incapable of intimacy.
#failure #rejection #guilt #loneliness #brooding #rumination #loss #trauma #self-esteem #psychology #injury #emotions #first-aid #pain #speech #talk #guy-winch #aid
Election politics is very much a type of marketing, and politicians are starting to use personalized marketing’s capability to discriminate as a way to track voting patterns and better “sell” a candidate or policy position.
Psychological manipulation—based both on personal information and control of the underlying systems—will get better and better. Even worse, it will become so good that we won’t know we’re being manipulated.
#elections #politics #psychology #surveillance #manipulation #facebook #google #tilt