So I think as long as you’re dating somebody and you keep the half an eye open for others, this is really a problem. Because you’ll keep on asking yourself all the time: Is this good enough? And when you go on online dating, humanity looks amazing; everybody’s so wonderful and thoughtful and loves poetry and running and hiking. I think if you date and still remain online at the same time, that’s a really bad recipe for success.

http://www.pbs.org/newshour/making-sense/why-playing-hard-to-get-is-good-game-and-other-lessons-from-behavioral-economics/

#relationships #love #commitment

բնօրինակ սփիւռքում(եւ մեկնաբանութիւննե՞ր)

It can be painful to watch someone you have loved (continue to love – at least the idea of her) do things that you support, would feel proud of, would make you care about them all the more. Because it’s a reminder that you’re no longer “allowed” to care in the ways you want, to show that care, to have it reciprocated in the ways you would need.

#love #relationships

բնօրինակ սփիւռքում(եւ մեկնաբանութիւննե՞ր)

— what would you say, would i be able, capable to get let’s say Vanadzorian girl, from, as it’s assumed, average patriarchal family, who used to, learned the traditional male role model from her father, to get in to relationship with me?

(pause)

— No?
— Yes, you can, but… well, it depends from her age.
— You mean, if she’s young, and has no experience, she might fall in love with me?
— No, no way, if she’s young. But if she’s old, and desperate to find…
— Okay, I see your point. Thank you.

(pause again)

— You know, actually I thought that no, average Vanadzorian girl could consider you - you have a good profession, you earn enough money, more than average Vanadzorian guy, who drives bus would…
— Do not continue. Thank you.
— What did you want from me? I am sincere.
— Yes, thank you.

#talk #relationships

բնօրինակ սփիւռքում(եւ մեկնաբանութիւննե՞ր)