relationships have dependencies and prerequisites. for a friendship or romantic relationship to exist, the participants have to meet. meeting means that they exist in the same world.
i say world, and mean dimensions and time. i say dimension, and mean, shared environment, existence, way of life. in one world everything most important exists around the theatre: discussions about directors, current performances, unanswered questions. in the other world, it’s when and where to harvest food. in some world the main, big and fat tag in the tag cloud is politics. somewhere it’s literature. some people live in a world where it’s important to know modern hardware, models, trends. some people live in a world of mathematical proofs. the worlds have to overlap, this is a prerequisite.
worlds can overlap somewhere outside of the main tag area. people go to clubs, pubs, political rallies, film festivals, art exhibitions, IT conferences. so if one does enjoy friday nights, and the other has no idea what people do on friday night and where, then they won’t meet and get acquainted. and even if they have been acquainted somewhere else, in order for the relationship or a friendship to sustain there must be willingness and readiness to merge the worlds, existences, or at least some parts of those. but why?
what can decrease the amount of frustration in the world, is the recognition that the person you had an idea to be involved with somehow lives in the other world. you don’t get involved with someone from the mars. so it’s not stupid to recognize that let’s say this young girl who talks about the theatre all the time, has her own world, and options to consider there. and that may be if you cross the world border, and establish your troops there, because you think you need this, that’s an aggression, and unjustified behaviour to mess with someone’s life.