So I think as long as you’re dating somebody and you keep the half an eye open for others, this is really a problem. Because you’ll keep on asking yourself all the time: Is this good enough? And when you go on online dating, humanity looks amazing; everybody’s so wonderful and thoughtful and loves poetry and running and hiking. I think if you date and still remain online at the same time, that’s a really bad recipe for success.

http://www.pbs.org/newshour/making-sense/why-playing-hard-to-get-is-good-game-and-other-lessons-from-behavioral-economics/

#relationships #love #commitment

բնօրինակ սփիւռքում(եւ մեկնաբանութիւննե՞ր)

It can be painful to watch someone you have loved (continue to love – at least the idea of her) do things that you support, would feel proud of, would make you care about them all the more. Because it’s a reminder that you’re no longer “allowed” to care in the ways you want, to show that care, to have it reciprocated in the ways you would need.

#love #relationships

բնօրինակ սփիւռքում(եւ մեկնաբանութիւննե՞ր)

in couples, and they should not even be turing ‘complete’ couples, there is a collective responsibility, and collective punishment. like in army.

one is able to punish both. or one can be the reason to punish both. or one can force the other to play ‘loose-loose’ game.

plenty of variants, and the most important is, nobody has to teach any of those - all known by heart, intuitively, and it is not necessary to make an effort.

#love

բնօրինակ սփիւռքում(եւ մեկնաբանութիւննե՞ր)

love