this one is so important that i will quote it again
My idillic childhood came to a crashing end at age 16. In summer camp that year I realized I was a geek and didn’t have any friends; and more importantly: for the first time I actually cared about this. This horrible realization kicked off fifteen years of low self esteem and poor dating choices.
I beat myself up for being too short (which I had no control over), too intelligent (which is a stupid thing to be upset about), and uninterested in “guy things” like football, cars, and beer. (Did I mention I grew up in the south?)