My Wonderful Sweet Precious  Darling Guen,


     A modern definition of love-"When the happiness and well 
being of another person is greater than or equal to our own, then 
Love exists"     

     To day the sun is shining, birds are building nests right 
outside the kitchen window and the young fruit trees are bearing 
fruit for the first time. It is a wonderful time. But it is even 
more wonderful darling because today I think I have realised the 
solution to all those things which were depressing me for the past 
couple of months. 
     As you remember my last letters were filled with a lot of 
concerns about the future. I wasn't feeling very happy. And I was 
feeling even worse because my vacation to see you was coming up 
soon and all theser things were on my mind. I wondered if I could 
be in a good mood when I saw you after thinking about all these 
things. I was thinking that, after you read the letters, you would 
probably start looking for a man who had more money than I or a 
man from your own country with your same religion and views on 
things. Who knows? Maybe you already have. 
     Yet today my mind is as clear as crystal and my heart is as 
light as a feather. Today I realise that there is a solution to 
almost all the things that were troubling me. It's like an answer 
to a prayer. And I would like to take a few moments to talk with 
you about it and get your thoughts on this ok?
     Guen Darling, it occurred to me that the ability to make a 
smooth transition to another country, to be an asset to your 
husband, and be able to provide benifits for your family back home 
in the Philippines, lies directly in the amount of education that 
you have. I had mentioned before that the normal situation with 
families in America these days is that both husband and wife work.  
And to be able to retain a position in above average society here, 
to put the kids into a good school, to obtain personal goals and 
to generally live without too much hardship, again, lies directly 
in the amount of education that a person has. With a good 
education a person is an assest to their family, society and to 
themselves. Without as good education, a person may find that it 
is harder, if not impossible to achieve the things that they dream 
of. Without having liverd in another country i can only assume 
that this is true in whatever country we live in, especially the 
United States.  
     You know Guen, I had thought how nice it would be if i could 
assist you if you wanted to go to school. My original thoughts on 
this were that, if we were together here, I could help you go 
through school in America. The benefits to yourself and family 
would be wonderful. And then I would become depressed because i 
realised that, at present, with the two loans i have on the 
house, there wouldn't be enough for us to enjoy luxuries like 
that. It will still take a couple of years to pay off one of the 
house loans so that I would have a some left over for things like 
that. Yet it is still true. The answer to many of the thin  
gs I mentioned still lies in the level of education that you have.
You know Darling, we all have dreams, goals and desires. And to 
acheive those things which will bring happiness in our lives we 
need the tools to make it happen. You may have a strong desire to 
come to America, as you mentioned in the questionnaire "For a 
better future", yet you will still need the tools to make it 
happen. Coming to America does not in itself gaurante a better 
future. This is a different society with it's own customs and 
direction. To become part of this society and to utilise it's 
benifits again lies in the person's level of education. I think 
this point is clear. 
     Guen Darling, the two of us have a strong love for each other    
which has developed over the past year. Yet marriage is a much 
broader issue than even the love that we share. Marriage, which is 
based on true love, is still a complete combination of two people. 
There are no secrets in marriage. Marriage comdines two people 
completely; the good and the bad; their love, income, families, 
education, desires, religious beliefs and even more. We love each 
other Guen, yet we must think marraige through very well before a 
decision is made. Nevertheless, I still believe that a happy 
marriage is first founded on true love. With true love all those 
other things can be acheived. In fact true love can exist even 
without marriage. Certainly true love can exist between two people 
even if marriage must wait a while. Again, happy marriage is a 
lifelong commitment based on love and for which both persons 
should be well prepared. Marriage is based upon, and yet is a more 
complex thing, than love alone. Referring again to a  definition 
of love at the beginning of this letter; "When the happiness and 
well being of another person is greater than or equal to our own, 
then Love exists." I will now propose a resolution which I would 
like you to consider. i must admit that my love for you is so 
strong that i am concerned about your future, your dreams and 
desires even more than i am concerned about our own marriage. i 
want you to be happy Guen.  i would like to see you fulfill your 
dreams; even if it means fulfilling your dreams at  future time, 
and yes, even if it means that you eventually choose another man.  
And I firmly believe that attaining a completed college education 
is the most important step in coming to America for the better 
future that you dream of. Of course you could always continue to 
write to man in America who may have more income and finances and 
who are able to support you without an education. Yet I think that 
procedure would be rather impractical.

     Even though I am not as yet able to support you here and put 
you through school in America, I am more than willing to assist 
your education in Philippines. In fact, at this time i believe 
that i may be able to completley fund your education while you are 
still there. Of course i have no idea if you even agree with these 
thoughts so maybe I am assuming too much. It is just that, as I 
see things now, I really believe that your education is the key to 
your future dreams. I make my offer to you without obligation, you 
may choose whatever education that you like at a college in your 
area. And I do not ask for anything in return. It is my free gift 
to you Darling, because I love you. i also understand that for the 
time that you are studying and at school you will not be able to 
assist your family. I am aware of this and am willing to assist in 
this area also.  If you would like to do this i can only 
recommend that you pursue a degree that is useful in The United 
States. A degree in the Computer field is of course very handy. 
Yet i am sure that there are many other college degrees which are 
useful here in the U.S.. Find something that you would like to 
study first, be happy in whatever you choose, and i will do my 
best to see that you have the means to acheive this goal. If you 
have a good, solid and completed education Guen, you will be an 
asset to your future husband, your family, and to yourself. i 
beleive this approach is the KEY to the better future that you 
dream of here in the U.S.. I understand that you were probably not 
able to finnish school in the past most lIkely because your 
parents did not have enough to do this.Yet in our present 
situation i think it can be done.